What to Do When a Relative Goes Into Hospital
What to Do When a Relative Goes Into Hospital Having a family member admitted to the hospital is an emotional whirlwind. Between the clinical environment and the stress of recovery, it’s easy to...

Waiting for a hospital consultant in the UK can be frustrating. Because you cannot self-refer to a specialist, the process often feels like a “black box.” However, the system is more flexible than it appears.
If you are asking, “How can I speed up my hospital appointment?” follow these 10 actionable steps to move up the queue.
This is the single most effective way to jump the queue. People cancel appointments every day; if you are ready to fill a slot at a moment’s notice, you can save months of waiting.
The Pro Move: Call the consultant’s secretary once a week to check for openings.
Be Kind: Secretaries manage the diary. A polite, friendly attitude (and perhaps a thank-you card or box of nice biscuits later) goes a long way.
Many consultants operate across multiple sites (e.g., a main general hospital and a smaller community clinic).
Tell the secretary: “I am happy to travel to any site where the consultant works if it means an earlier date.”
While your GP might have referred you to a specific name, you are often referred to a team.
Ask if another qualified specialist in the same department has a shorter wait list.
Ensure you are added to the cancellation lists for the entire department, not just one doctor.
If your condition is worsening, your GP can advocate for you.
Urgent Care: Ask your GP if there is a “Hot Clinic” (urgent specialist clinic) for your condition.
Clinical Deterioration: If your symptoms have moved from “manageable” to “severe,” your GP can ring the hospital to upgrade your priority, and get you seen in a hot clinic.
Every NHS hospital has a PALS office. They act as an intermediary between patients and hospital staff. If your wait time has exceeded the maximum waiting time guarantees, PALS can investigate and help move your case forward.
Sometimes, a doctor isn’t the fastest route to a scan or surgery.
MSK Physiotherapists: Many GP surgeries have “First Contact” physios. They can often order MRIs and refer directly to surgeons faster than a general GP.
Optometrists: For eye issues, a high-street optician can often provide a faster, more detailed referral to ophthalmology than a GP.
Being 100% flexible with your time is vital. If you decline an appointment because of a holiday or work commitment, you may be moved to the back of the queue (another 3–6 months). Treat your appointment as a priority that cannot be moved.
You are not tethered to your local hospital. Use the NHS App or the [My Planned Care](https://www.myplanned care.nhs.uk) website to compare waiting times across England.
If another hospital two towns over has a shorter wait, you can ask your GP to move your referral there.
In a digital world, a physical letter or card to the consultant’s secretary (or better, the consultant themselves) can humanize your file. Briefly explain how the wait is impacting your quality of life or ability to work.
Health not wealth.
Whilst we are huge advocates for the NHS, the reality is that waits can currently exceed 12 months.
The “One-Off” Strategy: A private initial consultation usually costs between £200–£300.
Why do it? This gets you a diagnosis and a plan immediately. You can often then be transferred back into the NHS system for the actual treatment or surgery, having “skipped” the initial 6-month outpatient wait.
| Action | Who to Contact | Goal |
| Check Wait Times | NHS App / My Planned Care | Find hospitals with shorter queues. |
| Get on “Short Notice” List | Consultant’s Secretary | Fill a slot from a last-minute cancellation. |
| Escalate Referral | Your GP | Upgrade to “Urgent” if symptoms worsen. |
| Check Rights | PALS Office | Ensure you aren’t lost in the system. |
Bonus Tip: Always call secretaries early in the morning (around 9:00 AM). This is when they are most likely to be processing the morning’s cancellations. Be polite, be persistent, and keep a log of who you spoke to and when.
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